“We keep going back, stronger, not weaker, because we will not allow rejection to beat us down. It will only strengthen our resolve. To be successful there is no other way.” – Earl G. Graves, Founder and publisher of Black Entreprise magazine.
“To get over rejection, you have to realise that rejection is really a myth. It doesn’t really exist. It is simply a concept that you hold in your head. Think about it. If you ask Patty to have dinner with you and she says no, you didn’t have anyone to eat dinner with you before you asked her, and you don’t have anyone to eat dinner with after you asked her. The situation didn’t get worse; it stayed the same. It only gets worse if you go inside and tell yourself something extra like “See, Mother was right. No one will ever like me. I am the slug of the universe!” (Back to the Zander – “everything is invented”)
Another useful quotation:
“This manuscript of yours that has just come back from another editor is a precious package. Don’t consider it rejected. Consider that you’ve addressed it “to the editor who can appreciate my work” and it has simply come back stamped “not at this address”. Just keep looking for the right address.” – Barbara Kingsolver, Best-selling author of The Poisonwood Bible.
Essentially, if you allow the fear of rejection to stop you sending out, you might simply not send out in sufficient quantities to get that YES! Don’t cut off your own potential by your fear of rejection. And don’t let yourself get eaten up by it. It only has meaning if you give it meaning. Get the work out there!
Say ‘Next!’ and move on…
A final example from ‘The Success Principles’ may be useful here:
“Novelist Stephen King almost made a multimillion-dollar mistake when he threw his Carrie manuscript in the garbage because he was tired of rejections. “We are not interested in science fiction which deals with negative utopias” he was told. “They do not sell.” Luckily his wife fished it out of the garbage. Eventually Carrie was printed by another publisher, sold more than 4 million copies, and was made into a blockbuster film.